Have special plans this 09/09/09?
Everyone from brides and grooms to movie studio execs are celebrating the upcoming calendrical anomaly in their own way.
In Florida, at least one county clerk's office is offering a one-day wedding special for $99.99. The rarity of this Sept. 9 hasn't been lost on the creators of the iPod, who have moved their traditional Tuesday release day to Wednesday to take advantage of the special date. Focus Features is releasing their new film "9," an animated tale about the apocalypse, on the 9th.
Not only does the date look good in marketing promotions, but it also represents the last set of repeating, single-digit dates that we'll see for almost a century (until January 1, 2101), or a millennium (mark your calendars for January 1, 3001), depending on how you want to count it.
Though technically there's nothing special about the symmetrical date, some concerned with the history and meaning of numbers ascribe powerful significance to 09/09/09. For cultures in which the number nine is lucky, Sept. 9 is anticipated - while others might see the date as an ominous warning.
Math magic
Modern numerologists - who operate outside the realm of real science - believe that mystical significance or vibrations can be assigned to each numeral one through nine, and different combinations of the digits produce tangible results in life depending on their application.
As the final numeral, the number nine holds special rank. It is associated with forgiveness, compassion and success on the positive side as well as arrogance and self-righteousness on the negative, according to numerologists.
Though usually discredited as bogus, numerologists do have a famous predecessor to look to. Pythagoras, the Greek mathematician and father of the famous theorem, is also credited with popularizing numerology in ancient times.
"Pythagoras most of all seems to have honored and advanced the study concerned with numbers, having taken it away from the use of merchants and likening all things to numbers," wrote Aristoxenus, an ancient Greek historian, in the 4th century B.C.As part of his obsession with numbers both mathematically and divine, and like many mathematicians before and since, Pythagoras noted that nine in particular had many unique properties. Any grade-schooler could tell you, for example, that the sum of the two-digits resulting from nine multiplied by any other single-digit number will equal nine. So 9x3=27, and 2+7=9.
Multiply nine by any two, three or four-digit number and the sums of those will also break down to nine. For example: 9x62 = 558; 5+5+8=18; 1+8=9.
Sept. 9 also happens to be the 252nd day of the year (2 + 5 +2)...
Loving 9
Both China and Japan have strong feelings about the number nine. Those feelings just happen to be on opposite ends of the spectrum. The Chinese pulled out all the stops to celebrate their lucky number eight during last year's Summer Olympics, ringing the games in at 8 p.m. on 08/08/08. What many might not realize is that nine comes in second on their list of auspicious digits and is associated with long life, due to how similar its pronunciation is to the local word for long-lasting (eight sounds like wealth).
Historically, ancient Chinese emperors associated themselves closely with the number nine, which appeared prominently in architecture and royal dress, often in the form of nine fearsome dragons. The imperial dynasties were so convinced of the power of the number nine that the palace complex at Beijing's Forbidden City is rumored to have been built with 9,999 rooms.
Japanese emperors would have never worn a robe with nine dragons, however.
In Japanese, the word for nine is a homophone for the word for suffering, so the number is considered highly unlucky - second only to four, which sounds like death.
Many Japanese will go so far as to avoid room numbers including nine at hotels or hospitals, if the building planners haven't already eliminated them altogether.
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A Beautiful Mind
"Perhaps it is good to have a beautiful mind, but an even greater gift is to discover a beautiful heart. "
"Listen. If we can't break the ice, how 'bout we drown it? "
"If we all go for the blonde and block each other, not a single one of us is going to get her. So then we go for her friends, but they will all give us the cold shoulder because no on likes to be second choice. But what if none of us goes for the blonde? We won't get in each other's way and we won't insult the other girls. It's the only way to win. It's the only way we all get laid. "
"Listen. If we can't break the ice, how 'bout we drown it? "
"If we all go for the blonde and block each other, not a single one of us is going to get her. So then we go for her friends, but they will all give us the cold shoulder because no on likes to be second choice. But what if none of us goes for the blonde? We won't get in each other's way and we won't insult the other girls. It's the only way to win. It's the only way we all get laid. "
How to Win in a Street Fight (realistically)
Step 1
Ok, remember there is no such thing as cheating in street fight. Crotch shots, biting, eye gouging, throat shots are all "legal."
Step 2
Make sure your not swinging wildy, because if you are, your probably not making much success and your leaving yourself open. So keep atleast a hand near your face at all times.
Step 3
Make sure you block your face and lower body. Not all fights (like you see in movies or on tv) are just face shots. MAke sure you duck also, if you duck then you'll have a better chance. Even if you block, your still getting hit. If you duck he might miss completely.
Step 4
Go for the gut. You hit a guy in the gut hard enough, you'll knock the wind out of him and he might be finished early.
Step 5
Don't just hit directly in the face; (unless your hitting him in the nose) the side of the head is a very vunerable place. You hit hard enough in the side of the head, he'll get dazed and confused; leaving himself open or if your lucky, he might be KO'd.
Step 6
If you get on the ground and your on bottom, don't panic, cover your head or grab him by the back of the neck and pull his head to your chest; then you can just keep socking him in the side of the from there. Or grab him by the back of the neck, with one hand, and use your free arm to throw some bow's (elbows) on him.If your on top, take advantage. Hammerfist his ass, or use the bow's. Or just straight out punch him in the face.
Step 7
If you don't really want to fight, a good way is just to make him pass out. If he comes at you jump behind him quickly and put him in the rear naked choke and squeeze hard as you can, he will probably be out within a few seconds. If you don't know what a rear naked choke is; im not going to try to explain it, just got to google and type it in.
Step 8
Only do this in extreme cases, like if the guy is just a big a**hole or your out numbered. Use a weapon, perferabley a knife. You pull out a knife a guy will usually back off. If he tries to act like it's not bothering him, just starting walking towards him/them, they will most likely back off.If you don't have a knife, just use whats handy or the nearest thing you can pick. If it's a blunt object only use it if they are serious and don't back off. Just make sure you don't kill him/them.
Step 9
Start taking some kind of martial art or boxing class. MMA is prefered. It's the best way to learn. If your strapped for cash and can't. Just study how other people fight.
Step 10
Learn how to take a hit. Your going to get hit. There's no denying that. If you get into a fight, your going to get hit. So it's best to learn how to take it. Best way is to act like you didn't get hit, just keep going.
Step 11
Legs are the most important thing in a fight. Protect yours. If you can get a guys legs out from underneath him and get him to the ground, as long as your in control, your ALMOST guaranteed to win.
Ok, remember there is no such thing as cheating in street fight. Crotch shots, biting, eye gouging, throat shots are all "legal."
Step 2
Make sure your not swinging wildy, because if you are, your probably not making much success and your leaving yourself open. So keep atleast a hand near your face at all times.
Step 3
Make sure you block your face and lower body. Not all fights (like you see in movies or on tv) are just face shots. MAke sure you duck also, if you duck then you'll have a better chance. Even if you block, your still getting hit. If you duck he might miss completely.
Step 4
Go for the gut. You hit a guy in the gut hard enough, you'll knock the wind out of him and he might be finished early.
Step 5
Don't just hit directly in the face; (unless your hitting him in the nose) the side of the head is a very vunerable place. You hit hard enough in the side of the head, he'll get dazed and confused; leaving himself open or if your lucky, he might be KO'd.
Step 6
If you get on the ground and your on bottom, don't panic, cover your head or grab him by the back of the neck and pull his head to your chest; then you can just keep socking him in the side of the from there. Or grab him by the back of the neck, with one hand, and use your free arm to throw some bow's (elbows) on him.If your on top, take advantage. Hammerfist his ass, or use the bow's. Or just straight out punch him in the face.
Step 7
If you don't really want to fight, a good way is just to make him pass out. If he comes at you jump behind him quickly and put him in the rear naked choke and squeeze hard as you can, he will probably be out within a few seconds. If you don't know what a rear naked choke is; im not going to try to explain it, just got to google and type it in.
Step 8
Only do this in extreme cases, like if the guy is just a big a**hole or your out numbered. Use a weapon, perferabley a knife. You pull out a knife a guy will usually back off. If he tries to act like it's not bothering him, just starting walking towards him/them, they will most likely back off.If you don't have a knife, just use whats handy or the nearest thing you can pick. If it's a blunt object only use it if they are serious and don't back off. Just make sure you don't kill him/them.
Step 9
Start taking some kind of martial art or boxing class. MMA is prefered. It's the best way to learn. If your strapped for cash and can't. Just study how other people fight.
Step 10
Learn how to take a hit. Your going to get hit. There's no denying that. If you get into a fight, your going to get hit. So it's best to learn how to take it. Best way is to act like you didn't get hit, just keep going.
Step 11
Legs are the most important thing in a fight. Protect yours. If you can get a guys legs out from underneath him and get him to the ground, as long as your in control, your ALMOST guaranteed to win.
Meeting Your Ex Girlfriend After A Breakup - 6 Do’s And Don’ts
Meeting Your Ex Girlfriend After A Breakup - 6 Do’s And Don’ts
By Dr. George Karanastasis March 12, 2008
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So, you haven’t seen your ex girlfriend since your breakup and now she’s asked you to meet up. You happily oblige…
You’re excited, yet nervous - full of hope, and at the same time, weary of what might happen… and rightfully so, because this is quite a crucial part of the getting back together process and must be handled with tact.
And if you happen to be in this situation… then here are 6 do’s and don’ts (guidelines, so to speak) to ensure you make the most of this encounter…
Do #1: Maintain a lighthearted mood throughout the meeting…
Nobody enjoys being in uncomfortable situations. And this meeting with your ex girlfriend is likely to be exactly that: awkward and uneasy (especially if you haven’t seen each other in a while).
But despite this fact, it’s on you to take what could be an uncomfortable experience and turn it into a pleasant one. This is important because you want this to be the first of many more meetings… and the latter won’t follow if this ends up being a negative ordeal.
So keep a lighthearted tone, crack some jokes, and make her smile. Make this a fun encounter and more will soon follow.
Do #2: Contain your excitement…
It’s natural to be overflowing with excitement if you’ve been apart for some time and this is your first meeting since the breakup, however, keep your enthusiasm in check. The last thing you want is to give her the impression that you’ve been eagerly awaiting this meeting.
And it goes without saying that you should not tell her how much you’ve missed her! Be happy to be with her, show it, but don’t overdo it.
Do #3: Keep the meeting short…
If everything’s going according to plan and you’re finding yourselves wrapped up in interesting conversations (yet pointless as far as your relationship is concerned)… don’t make the mistake of dragging out this date until you run out of things to talk about and she tells you it’s time to go.
Keep the momentum going throughout the meeting, reach a peak, and then cut it short. You want to leave her with something to look forward to… and regarding the latter, don’t be the one to ask her for a second date. Let her take charge and ask you first.
And now for the don’ts…
Don’t #1: Get there looking like a train wreck…
Going through a breakup can take it’s toll on both your physical and mental state… sometimes to a extreme extent, however, showing up at this meeting looking like you’ve just been through World War III is not going to help your case. It’s not her pity you’re after… it’s her love.
Put on a nice pair of clothes (don’t overdo it in this department), pretty up, and get there looking like you’ve just gotten back from a nice relaxing vacation.
Don’t #2: Bring up the relationship unless she does…
Out of all the do’s and don’ts, this is probably the most important so pay close attention… after the initial round of “hello’s, how are you’s, and how have you been’s” you’ll be tempted to dive into deeper issues such as:
Where you both stand in your relationship
Why things went downhill
What’s going to happen from this day forward
It’s inevitable that the conversion will lead up to that, either in this meeting, or the next… but don’t be the one to initiate it. Your only “task” throughout this encounter is to put both of you in comfortable mood so that these issues can be properly addressed… the latter, however, has to come from her.
And this ties in directly with the final don’t…
Don’t #3: Expect too much from this meeting
It takes time to get over the hump of a breakup, put the negative feelings aside, and start over. And it’s easy to become overly optimistic about this meeting if your ex has reached out to you (especially if she’s been rejecting you for some time). Regardless of this fact… arrive (and leave) without expectations.
If she’s taken the first step towards re-establishing communication and it didn’t go as well as you hoped… then leave it at that. If you’ve followed the above advice you’ll get a chance to meet again, and each successive encounter will bring you a little closer to your goal of getting back together. But until that happens, remember… these things take time.
And finally, for more help with getting your ex girlfriend back, click here to read a free report that contains 6 actionable pieces of advice to follow throughout your breakup.
Popularity: 91%
Topics: How To Get Her Back
11 Responses to “Meeting Your Ex Girlfriend After A Breakup - 6 Do’s And Don’ts”
Dino Says: November 12th, 2008 at 10:48 pm
Thank you so much for this info:) it is really good! God bless:)
alex mina Says: November 16th, 2008 at 5:26 pm
my case different she not my girlfriend.im one of her suitors, for a year already. but until now no clear answer from her if she like me or not. a last couple of day i been fight her. beacuse i fell she with someone elese. then she get mad to me very badly. she told me not call her anymore. during that time i try my best to make her calm but i faild i begging her,i say sorry but she junt ingnoring me. then lastly i told her that if you dont want to talk me, dont call me too. i have nothting to lose. and i will not run after you.
A. Says: January 13th, 2009 at 11:51 pm
Dr. Karanastasis,
How can one reach you to discuss a specific situation? Can you email me and let me know?
SJM Says: February 23rd, 2009 at 3:30 am
This could of been real helpfull about 5 days ago… I was letting her know that there might be something between me and another girl, so she called me 5 days ago at 4am to talk and continiously mentioned that she loves me and wanted me to say the same to her but she also mentioned that she doesnt want to be back with me but she cant live without me…I know shes a little wack but thats why I love her! but now we had a fight over something small and she doesnt answer my calls. Look I really love her and I really need some help!
SJM Says: February 23rd, 2009 at 3:32 am
and I’m also scared that she will start dating other guys by the time she starts missing me again…I know for a fact that she weant out with someone 2 days ago (she kept it a secret from me)
100+ Resources to Get You Through a Break Up Nerds Do It Better Says: February 24th, 2009 at 5:51 am
[…] "Meet Your Ex-Girlfriend After a Breakup — 6 Dos and Dont’s: From keeping the mood light to acting cool to keeping your expectations low, this guide goes over the basic rules for meeting an ex for the first time. […]
jacob Says: February 28th, 2009 at 11:16 pm
i recently broke up with my girlfriend and it was because of me… i cheated on her a couple of times and she was good enough to forgive me…it finally fell apart when she wanted me to stop smoking and i challenged her threat… i know all of these things work already because i used to get a lot of girls that i didnt feel that strongly for… when i ignore them they try to talk to me but with my ex its different.. she is the first girl ive loved and i thought that pleading with her and telling her how things will be different will change her mind on me… it didnt… like yu said it just pushed her away further… now that ive made that mistake ill do what ive always done and play the cool even though im not…. i hope i didnt dig a hole deeper than that which i could get out of…
needadvice Says: March 23rd, 2009 at 10:32 am
Question: I broke up with my G/f one and a half years ago never had an argument but just needed some time off and no matter which way i put it i still broke her heart..
Now! since then I’ve bumped into her twice and funnily each time it’s been the night before i left for south east Asia. It’s been 6 months since i last seen her & For the last month she’s been constantly on my mind and have been missing her.
i haven’t dated anybody since her prob because i haven’t been looking/working but is this normal and what should i do?
we dated for just under 2yrs
buwa Says: March 24th, 2009 at 9:23 pm
hi! thanks for the tips. wt is the best way to set up a meeting with a ex girlfriend?
Dave H Says: April 11th, 2009 at 12:58 am
this is great advice. Underlines something important to know about women… they are looking for high status males (though status can be subjective). Being overly enthusiastic towards a woman shows that you feel you are lower value than she is.. don’t believe this! Most women are pretty insecure and what they need is support and not fawning. A belief that YOU have other options, and that YOU are high value, is a much greater stimulus to her than knowing that you love her.
CSS Says: April 26th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
Its been 7 months since my breakup…me and the ex have cut off all ties and i thought id never speak to him again….well last night he invited me out to an after party which i went to…but we didnt really talk there…i wokeup to a text today of him apologizing how he wasnt really around the majority of the night…..and so on. I responded telling him it wasnt a big deal (becuz it really wasnt at all) and we laughed about stuff. 10 minutes went by and he sends me a text saying that he doesnt know why hes saying this, but he would eventually like for us to be more than just civil and we have things we need to figure out. We havent spoke in 7 months! I guess becuz we frequent the same parties/bars and all and he sees me alot? Idkno how to go about this =[
he reached out to me…which i knew took alot, and even during the relationship i would always tell him to “man up” or give in alittle….it shows alot…i just dont know what to expect, and i dont wanna get hurt again….guess if and when we hangout, i should follow these rules?
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So, you haven’t seen your ex girlfriend since your breakup and now she’s asked you to meet up. You happily oblige…
You’re excited, yet nervous - full of hope, and at the same time, weary of what might happen… and rightfully so, because this is quite a crucial part of the getting back together process and must be handled with tact.
And if you happen to be in this situation… then here are 6 do’s and don’ts (guidelines, so to speak) to ensure you make the most of this encounter…
Do #1: Maintain a lighthearted mood throughout the meeting…
Nobody enjoys being in uncomfortable situations. And this meeting with your ex girlfriend is likely to be exactly that: awkward and uneasy (especially if you haven’t seen each other in a while).
But despite this fact, it’s on you to take what could be an uncomfortable experience and turn it into a pleasant one. This is important because you want this to be the first of many more meetings… and the latter won’t follow if this ends up being a negative ordeal.
So keep a lighthearted tone, crack some jokes, and make her smile. Make this a fun encounter and more will soon follow.
Do #2: Contain your excitement…
It’s natural to be overflowing with excitement if you’ve been apart for some time and this is your first meeting since the breakup, however, keep your enthusiasm in check. The last thing you want is to give her the impression that you’ve been eagerly awaiting this meeting.
And it goes without saying that you should not tell her how much you’ve missed her! Be happy to be with her, show it, but don’t overdo it.
Do #3: Keep the meeting short…
If everything’s going according to plan and you’re finding yourselves wrapped up in interesting conversations (yet pointless as far as your relationship is concerned)… don’t make the mistake of dragging out this date until you run out of things to talk about and she tells you it’s time to go.
Keep the momentum going throughout the meeting, reach a peak, and then cut it short. You want to leave her with something to look forward to… and regarding the latter, don’t be the one to ask her for a second date. Let her take charge and ask you first.
And now for the don’ts…
Don’t #1: Get there looking like a train wreck…
Going through a breakup can take it’s toll on both your physical and mental state… sometimes to a extreme extent, however, showing up at this meeting looking like you’ve just been through World War III is not going to help your case. It’s not her pity you’re after… it’s her love.
Put on a nice pair of clothes (don’t overdo it in this department), pretty up, and get there looking like you’ve just gotten back from a nice relaxing vacation.
Don’t #2: Bring up the relationship unless she does…
Out of all the do’s and don’ts, this is probably the most important so pay close attention… after the initial round of “hello’s, how are you’s, and how have you been’s” you’ll be tempted to dive into deeper issues such as:
Where you both stand in your relationship
Why things went downhill
What’s going to happen from this day forward
It’s inevitable that the conversion will lead up to that, either in this meeting, or the next… but don’t be the one to initiate it. Your only “task” throughout this encounter is to put both of you in comfortable mood so that these issues can be properly addressed… the latter, however, has to come from her.
And this ties in directly with the final don’t…
Don’t #3: Expect too much from this meeting
It takes time to get over the hump of a breakup, put the negative feelings aside, and start over. And it’s easy to become overly optimistic about this meeting if your ex has reached out to you (especially if she’s been rejecting you for some time). Regardless of this fact… arrive (and leave) without expectations.
If she’s taken the first step towards re-establishing communication and it didn’t go as well as you hoped… then leave it at that. If you’ve followed the above advice you’ll get a chance to meet again, and each successive encounter will bring you a little closer to your goal of getting back together. But until that happens, remember… these things take time.
And finally, for more help with getting your ex girlfriend back, click here to read a free report that contains 6 actionable pieces of advice to follow throughout your breakup.
Popularity: 91%
Topics: How To Get Her Back
11 Responses to “Meeting Your Ex Girlfriend After A Breakup - 6 Do’s And Don’ts”
Dino Says: November 12th, 2008 at 10:48 pm
Thank you so much for this info:) it is really good! God bless:)
alex mina Says: November 16th, 2008 at 5:26 pm
my case different she not my girlfriend.im one of her suitors, for a year already. but until now no clear answer from her if she like me or not. a last couple of day i been fight her. beacuse i fell she with someone elese. then she get mad to me very badly. she told me not call her anymore. during that time i try my best to make her calm but i faild i begging her,i say sorry but she junt ingnoring me. then lastly i told her that if you dont want to talk me, dont call me too. i have nothting to lose. and i will not run after you.
A. Says: January 13th, 2009 at 11:51 pm
Dr. Karanastasis,
How can one reach you to discuss a specific situation? Can you email me and let me know?
SJM Says: February 23rd, 2009 at 3:30 am
This could of been real helpfull about 5 days ago… I was letting her know that there might be something between me and another girl, so she called me 5 days ago at 4am to talk and continiously mentioned that she loves me and wanted me to say the same to her but she also mentioned that she doesnt want to be back with me but she cant live without me…I know shes a little wack but thats why I love her! but now we had a fight over something small and she doesnt answer my calls. Look I really love her and I really need some help!
SJM Says: February 23rd, 2009 at 3:32 am
and I’m also scared that she will start dating other guys by the time she starts missing me again…I know for a fact that she weant out with someone 2 days ago (she kept it a secret from me)
100+ Resources to Get You Through a Break Up Nerds Do It Better Says: February 24th, 2009 at 5:51 am
[…] "Meet Your Ex-Girlfriend After a Breakup — 6 Dos and Dont’s: From keeping the mood light to acting cool to keeping your expectations low, this guide goes over the basic rules for meeting an ex for the first time. […]
jacob Says: February 28th, 2009 at 11:16 pm
i recently broke up with my girlfriend and it was because of me… i cheated on her a couple of times and she was good enough to forgive me…it finally fell apart when she wanted me to stop smoking and i challenged her threat… i know all of these things work already because i used to get a lot of girls that i didnt feel that strongly for… when i ignore them they try to talk to me but with my ex its different.. she is the first girl ive loved and i thought that pleading with her and telling her how things will be different will change her mind on me… it didnt… like yu said it just pushed her away further… now that ive made that mistake ill do what ive always done and play the cool even though im not…. i hope i didnt dig a hole deeper than that which i could get out of…
needadvice Says: March 23rd, 2009 at 10:32 am
Question: I broke up with my G/f one and a half years ago never had an argument but just needed some time off and no matter which way i put it i still broke her heart..
Now! since then I’ve bumped into her twice and funnily each time it’s been the night before i left for south east Asia. It’s been 6 months since i last seen her & For the last month she’s been constantly on my mind and have been missing her.
i haven’t dated anybody since her prob because i haven’t been looking/working but is this normal and what should i do?
we dated for just under 2yrs
buwa Says: March 24th, 2009 at 9:23 pm
hi! thanks for the tips. wt is the best way to set up a meeting with a ex girlfriend?
Dave H Says: April 11th, 2009 at 12:58 am
this is great advice. Underlines something important to know about women… they are looking for high status males (though status can be subjective). Being overly enthusiastic towards a woman shows that you feel you are lower value than she is.. don’t believe this! Most women are pretty insecure and what they need is support and not fawning. A belief that YOU have other options, and that YOU are high value, is a much greater stimulus to her than knowing that you love her.
CSS Says: April 26th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
Its been 7 months since my breakup…me and the ex have cut off all ties and i thought id never speak to him again….well last night he invited me out to an after party which i went to…but we didnt really talk there…i wokeup to a text today of him apologizing how he wasnt really around the majority of the night…..and so on. I responded telling him it wasnt a big deal (becuz it really wasnt at all) and we laughed about stuff. 10 minutes went by and he sends me a text saying that he doesnt know why hes saying this, but he would eventually like for us to be more than just civil and we have things we need to figure out. We havent spoke in 7 months! I guess becuz we frequent the same parties/bars and all and he sees me alot? Idkno how to go about this =[
he reached out to me…which i knew took alot, and even during the relationship i would always tell him to “man up” or give in alittle….it shows alot…i just dont know what to expect, and i dont wanna get hurt again….guess if and when we hangout, i should follow these rules?
Can you win her back? 6 Signs she still wants you.
Can You Win Her Back? 6 Signs She Still Wants You
By Dr. George Karanastasis January 15, 2008
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So, you’ve recently broken up with your girlfriend and now you’re trying to win her back…
The problem is, you don’t know how to go about it… you’re confused. One day you’re sure she can’t live without you, the next, it seems like she couldn’t care less if you’re alive or dead (figuratively speaking).
With this in mind, is it any wonder that you’re questioning the possibility of getting her back?
Well here’s something to cast aside your doubts. What follows are 6 tell-tale signs she’s still interested in you (some more subtle than others). And if you can pick out even one, rest assured that your chances of saving your relationship are alive and well…
Sign #1: Conduct unbecoming of a mere friend… (e.g. excessive flirting, “innocent” kisses… or even straight out sex)
This sign should be obvious. Unfortunately most men dismiss it. Why? Because they (mistakenly) treat it as an open invitation to jump back into the relationship. However, when they suggest working things out… the proposition is quickly met with a hope-crushing comment such as “I think it’s best we remain friends”.
Why is that? Simple… the attraction is still there but the core essentials that keep couples together are missing. A relationship lives and dies with attraction - when the latter goes the former soon follows. However, attraction in itself is not enough to keep a girl. She has other needs and she’s either going to get them from you… or someone else.
The key here is to use an indirect approach. Let her come to her own conclusions that you’re capable of giving her what she wants. Do not verbally express this. She’ll take everything you have to say with a grain of salt… after all you are the ex with an agenda, right?
Sign #2: She gets jealous when you mention other girls
Whenever your ex girlfriend reacts to something you say (or do) it’s a sure sign she’s still interested. This goes double if she gets jealous of other girls. It means that she’s not ready to fully let you go… even though she won’t necessarily take you back. In her eyes, you still “belong” to her in a sense.
One word of warning: do not abuse this fact and deliberately try to make her jealous. You are in no position to be playing games. She clearly has the upper hand and you’re not emotionally ready to handle the consequences of losing.
Instead, just take comfort in knowing that the window opportunity to win her back is still open (if you play your cards right, that is)…
Sign #3: She attempts to makes you jealous by mentioning other guys
Just like with the last sign, this too is a dead giveaway that she still wants you. If she didn’t then she wouldn’t be going through the trouble to get a reaction out of you. She’d move on with her life without caring what you think of her (or any of her newfound “friends”).
However, many men seem to consider this a warning of worse to come. Don’t fall into this trap, and above all, don’t attempt to “get even”. Instead, keep your cool about the situation. It will only make her try harder to get you to react. And that’s exactly what you’re looking for if you want to win her back.
Sign #4: She gets furious when you blow her off
Are you starting to see a pattern here? Even a reaction such as anger should keep your hopes alive. It’s indifference that should cause you panic. But again, do not abuse this fact - it will come back to bite you in the…
Whenever you make plans (to call, meet, etc.) - keep them. If you don’t, sooner than later the tables will turn and it will be she that’s blowing you off. And if you need some space and can’t be in contact with her, politely tell her next time you see her. Don’t ignore her altogether.
Sign #5: She constantly calls, texts, or Emails “just to see how you’re doing”
It’s natural for your ex girlfriend to be concerned about your well-being after a breakup. But there’s a fine line between concern and downright desire to keep you in her daily life.
You see, if she was truly over you she wouldn’t feel the need to keep you so close… even if she considers you her best friend. Instead, she’d go looking elsewhere to fill the void this breakup has left her with.
However, you must tread softly with this sign and act accordingly. I know it’s nice to hear her voice on a daily basis but the last thing you want to do is go from being a temporary ex-boyfriend to a permanent friend. Keep a healthy distance in this situation.
Sign #6: She avoids tying up “loose ends”
For example, she keeps all of her belongings at your place and constantly puts off getting them back. Likewise, she stops by ever so often to pick up a few things at a time (even though she could have gotten them all in one trip).
Do you know why she does this? She’s not ready to let you go. By keeping her stuff in your possession and getting them a little a time, she has the perfect excuse to meet you on a regular basis.
So there they are: 6 signs she’s still interested, or better yet, 6 signs you can win her back. And again, if your ex is showing even one… rest assured that the window of opportunity to be with her again is still wide open. All you need to do is handle the situation with tact and you should be well on your way to saving your relationship.
And if you need more help in this matter, click here to read a special report that gives you a deceptively simple (yet highly effective) plan to win her back.
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Topics: How To Get Her Back
2 Responses to “Can You Win Her Back? 6 Signs She Still Wants You”
Allen Says: December 29th, 2008 at 3:06 pm
My ex and I still stay together I will try to go sleep on the couch but she would say you don’t have to do that so I don’t we sleep in the same bed I will not try anything do to the fact that i’m afraid of pushing her away
Darrin Says: January 5th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Dear Dr. Karanastasis,I was dating this girl for a year and a half coming up to thanksgiving. After dinner with her family she told me that we needed to talk. She explained to me that she needed some space to hang out with her friends more and do her own thing. She made it very clear that there is no one else and she does not want random meaningless sex, but she said she might want to go on a dinner date with someone later down the road if they ask. On top of that she still tells me she loves me, cares about me, and still thinks i’m good looking, but that she hasn’t gotten butterflies for a while and didn’t think it was necessary to tell me when it first started. She continuously and emphatically says that no matter what, she will come back to me and that i’m the one she wants to marry and have children with? She still asks to hang out roughly once a week and says we need to remain in each others lives. We met each other in a rough time in both of our lives and we have both changed ourselves around for the best. And we’ve always had a great sex life. I’ve done my best to give her space but she always brings things up about us… So it’s very hard. I was reading the signs that she wants you back and 5 out of 6 ring true. What do i do? I can’t afford your book otherwise i’d buy it… I also feel i have a really unique situation going on here but don’t know how to go about it? And she also has outside influences that tell her that she should be partying it up single while in college and experience other guys. Also we’ve never really argued and we’ve had a pretty balanced relationship and the “break” all happened so fast! I’ve put a lot of thought into whether i truly want her. It’s been a bit over a month now and i’m sure without a doubt that she is the one and only for me! What do I do!? I need some help. Thank you for your time and advice! Sincerely, Darrin
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So, you’ve recently broken up with your girlfriend and now you’re trying to win her back…
The problem is, you don’t know how to go about it… you’re confused. One day you’re sure she can’t live without you, the next, it seems like she couldn’t care less if you’re alive or dead (figuratively speaking).
With this in mind, is it any wonder that you’re questioning the possibility of getting her back?
Well here’s something to cast aside your doubts. What follows are 6 tell-tale signs she’s still interested in you (some more subtle than others). And if you can pick out even one, rest assured that your chances of saving your relationship are alive and well…
Sign #1: Conduct unbecoming of a mere friend… (e.g. excessive flirting, “innocent” kisses… or even straight out sex)
This sign should be obvious. Unfortunately most men dismiss it. Why? Because they (mistakenly) treat it as an open invitation to jump back into the relationship. However, when they suggest working things out… the proposition is quickly met with a hope-crushing comment such as “I think it’s best we remain friends”.
Why is that? Simple… the attraction is still there but the core essentials that keep couples together are missing. A relationship lives and dies with attraction - when the latter goes the former soon follows. However, attraction in itself is not enough to keep a girl. She has other needs and she’s either going to get them from you… or someone else.
The key here is to use an indirect approach. Let her come to her own conclusions that you’re capable of giving her what she wants. Do not verbally express this. She’ll take everything you have to say with a grain of salt… after all you are the ex with an agenda, right?
Sign #2: She gets jealous when you mention other girls
Whenever your ex girlfriend reacts to something you say (or do) it’s a sure sign she’s still interested. This goes double if she gets jealous of other girls. It means that she’s not ready to fully let you go… even though she won’t necessarily take you back. In her eyes, you still “belong” to her in a sense.
One word of warning: do not abuse this fact and deliberately try to make her jealous. You are in no position to be playing games. She clearly has the upper hand and you’re not emotionally ready to handle the consequences of losing.
Instead, just take comfort in knowing that the window opportunity to win her back is still open (if you play your cards right, that is)…
Sign #3: She attempts to makes you jealous by mentioning other guys
Just like with the last sign, this too is a dead giveaway that she still wants you. If she didn’t then she wouldn’t be going through the trouble to get a reaction out of you. She’d move on with her life without caring what you think of her (or any of her newfound “friends”).
However, many men seem to consider this a warning of worse to come. Don’t fall into this trap, and above all, don’t attempt to “get even”. Instead, keep your cool about the situation. It will only make her try harder to get you to react. And that’s exactly what you’re looking for if you want to win her back.
Sign #4: She gets furious when you blow her off
Are you starting to see a pattern here? Even a reaction such as anger should keep your hopes alive. It’s indifference that should cause you panic. But again, do not abuse this fact - it will come back to bite you in the…
Whenever you make plans (to call, meet, etc.) - keep them. If you don’t, sooner than later the tables will turn and it will be she that’s blowing you off. And if you need some space and can’t be in contact with her, politely tell her next time you see her. Don’t ignore her altogether.
Sign #5: She constantly calls, texts, or Emails “just to see how you’re doing”
It’s natural for your ex girlfriend to be concerned about your well-being after a breakup. But there’s a fine line between concern and downright desire to keep you in her daily life.
You see, if she was truly over you she wouldn’t feel the need to keep you so close… even if she considers you her best friend. Instead, she’d go looking elsewhere to fill the void this breakup has left her with.
However, you must tread softly with this sign and act accordingly. I know it’s nice to hear her voice on a daily basis but the last thing you want to do is go from being a temporary ex-boyfriend to a permanent friend. Keep a healthy distance in this situation.
Sign #6: She avoids tying up “loose ends”
For example, she keeps all of her belongings at your place and constantly puts off getting them back. Likewise, she stops by ever so often to pick up a few things at a time (even though she could have gotten them all in one trip).
Do you know why she does this? She’s not ready to let you go. By keeping her stuff in your possession and getting them a little a time, she has the perfect excuse to meet you on a regular basis.
So there they are: 6 signs she’s still interested, or better yet, 6 signs you can win her back. And again, if your ex is showing even one… rest assured that the window of opportunity to be with her again is still wide open. All you need to do is handle the situation with tact and you should be well on your way to saving your relationship.
And if you need more help in this matter, click here to read a special report that gives you a deceptively simple (yet highly effective) plan to win her back.
Popularity: 91%
Topics: How To Get Her Back
2 Responses to “Can You Win Her Back? 6 Signs She Still Wants You”
Allen Says: December 29th, 2008 at 3:06 pm
My ex and I still stay together I will try to go sleep on the couch but she would say you don’t have to do that so I don’t we sleep in the same bed I will not try anything do to the fact that i’m afraid of pushing her away
Darrin Says: January 5th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Dear Dr. Karanastasis,I was dating this girl for a year and a half coming up to thanksgiving. After dinner with her family she told me that we needed to talk. She explained to me that she needed some space to hang out with her friends more and do her own thing. She made it very clear that there is no one else and she does not want random meaningless sex, but she said she might want to go on a dinner date with someone later down the road if they ask. On top of that she still tells me she loves me, cares about me, and still thinks i’m good looking, but that she hasn’t gotten butterflies for a while and didn’t think it was necessary to tell me when it first started. She continuously and emphatically says that no matter what, she will come back to me and that i’m the one she wants to marry and have children with? She still asks to hang out roughly once a week and says we need to remain in each others lives. We met each other in a rough time in both of our lives and we have both changed ourselves around for the best. And we’ve always had a great sex life. I’ve done my best to give her space but she always brings things up about us… So it’s very hard. I was reading the signs that she wants you back and 5 out of 6 ring true. What do i do? I can’t afford your book otherwise i’d buy it… I also feel i have a really unique situation going on here but don’t know how to go about it? And she also has outside influences that tell her that she should be partying it up single while in college and experience other guys. Also we’ve never really argued and we’ve had a pretty balanced relationship and the “break” all happened so fast! I’ve put a lot of thought into whether i truly want her. It’s been a bit over a month now and i’m sure without a doubt that she is the one and only for me! What do I do!? I need some help. Thank you for your time and advice! Sincerely, Darrin
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